Are we a good fit?
I’m not the right therapist for everyone. It’s important to have transparency and know what to expect when choosing a therapist. Read on to get a feel for whether what I’m offering is right for you.
You're curious about how your past shapes your present. You're naturally introspective, or willing to become more introspective to understand yourself more deeply.
You want to identify your unmet needs and actively work to meet them so you can be more authentic, connected, and satisfied in your life.
You want a therapist who will do more than validate—who won’t just nod and say “I’m sorry.” You want them to be real with you, challenge your thinking when it’s called for, and help you face uncomfortable truths that are important to your growth.
You’re realistic about change. You expect it to take effort and to happen over time. You don’t expect a quick fix, or to be able to achieve change while also avoiding discomfort.
You don’t want to be in therapy forever. You believe in therapy as a tool, not a lifestyle. Your goal is to give therapy your serious attention now so you can move forward with what you’ve learned on your own.
You’re done wishing things—or people—would just be different, and you’re ready to work with the reality you have in front of you and shape it into a new one.
You’re prepared to take time to activity reflect in your everyday life on a regular basis outside of sessions.
You want collaborative, not prescriptive, therapy. You know you bring as much to the table as I do and that your ideas, desires, and input are critical.
We’ll probably be a good fit if:
You need someone to vent to, but you’re not sure you want to try new actions outside the therapy room. You’re not really willing to surprise others in your life by acting differently than they expect, and don’t want to disrupt existing relationship dynamics.
You can’t commit to weekly sessions.
You’re looking for symptom relief without exploring emotional meaning. You’re not open to the idea that the road to relief will involve examining past experiences, relationships, and strong emotions like anger, fear, or sadness. You want someone to guide you around, not through, that forest.
You want prescriptive, not collaborative, therapy.
You view therapy as passive: something done on you rather than something you do for yourself. You feel you’re broken and want someone who can “fix” you.
You’re seeking therapy at the insistence of someone else. Your primary motivation is to appease them or avoid an unwanted consequence.
You expect that I’ll offer generic advice and you’ll hear me out—maybe take a couple of things you like, and leave the rest. You’re not really sure you’ll get anything out of it at all, but you might as well check it out.
You are actively suicidal, experiencing strong urges to act on a desire to harm yourself. I’m a solo practitioner in a part-time private practice, a setup that doesn’t allow me to provide the attention and care required in these cases. If you are experiencing this right now, please call 988 or 911, or seek care at the nearest Emergency Room or Behavioral Health Urgent Care.
You have a substance use disorder, OCD, or psychosis. These are not my specialities and I refer clients to specialized clinicians for help with these challenges.
